MOM, ARE YOU OK?

This morning, on my way to work, I realised that I am a very privilege person. My eldest daughter phoned me, just to ask if I am OK, because the ambulances went crazy (near the college). The past me when I crossed the bridge, on their way to Virginia (or rather the Virginia road).

How many mom's can say that they have such a good relationship with their children? I mean, the first person she was thinking off was her mom. That is something that I will treasure in my heart.

My children and I are very very close. This is something that some people cannot understand. They always wants to know how we do it.

My youngest and I went to a camp for a weekend. A woman approached my daughter and asked her how and what are we doing to be so closed. She said that she wanted such a relationship with her 16 year old daughter. When my daughter told me that, I said to her that it is not something that just happens now and in the present. The past (when they are small) is the most important part of building a relationship with your child. The biggest secret is that you must keep on building that relationship. You must be there for your child, at all times. You must be a friend and a mother. I always differentiate the two when they did something wrong by saying - "now I am not your friend, but your mother. I need to discipline you, and in order to do that, you must understand that I am your mother. When this problem is sorted out, we will be friends again".

Even the priest who called my daughter that weekend said to me: "You know that I am just calling you to come with your daughter for assistance. I just want to tell you, God says that you do not have to worry about your child anymore. As much as you love your daughter, God loves her more and he is going to take that burden from your shoulders". What a wonderful Lord we have. I told nobody that I worried about my daughter not wanting to go to church anymore. The reason was because of a personal crisis that we had in our family after my husband came back from Zambia. She had a big problem coping with that problem, as it was something that did not do the term Christianity any good.

All three my daughters will still come to me if they have a problem. The eldest (26 this month), the middle one (24 this month), and the youngest (20 in October). They talk to me about anything that bothers them. If someone is using drugs, they want to know why they throw their life away. If they do not believe in God, they question that. If someone do not have a good relationship with his/her parents, they will talk about that. The list can go on and on.

If somebody hurts me, they will definitely say something. They do not allow anybody to say something nasty to me (not even their Dad, who they also adore). They will not hesitate to tell him or her that what they just did was not nice.

If I do not feel well, they are all around me. They will help me, even feed me if necessary.

Although it is Mothers day on Sunday, I will definitely salute my children on Sunday. I will be thanking God (as I do daily) for the three lovely and wonderful children he gave me.

To all the mothers out there: "Make sure you build that relationship with your children. Believe me, it is worthwhile".